Friday, February 20, 2015

Friends in Need

Most of us have friends. We have long time friends, new friends, distant friend and nearby friends.   We have dearly loved friends and acquaintance friends.  We have friends that we see nearly every day, and friends that we see once every few years.  We consider all of them to be friends .... just on various levels of affection.

I have all the friends mentioned above plus a few more.  One type that I could do with a little less  is the one that ...... only calls you when they need you do something for them.  Usually it means doing it for free.  Auuughhh.  I don't hear from that friend for two years and then out of the blue I get a phone call:  How are you?  How are the kids?  How are your grandkids?  Uh, I have a question ..... could you ________________________ for me???????????   You probably have one of these too.

They say that a friend in need is a friend indeed.  That is true.  They are your "friend" until you finish what they want you to do. Then it will be a year or longer before you even hear from them again.  Oh, wait .... maybe that's a good thing.  Or maybe I need to learn to say no.  Hmmmm??

If you have real, caring, reciprocal friends .... cherish them.  They are worth holding onto.

Friday, February 13, 2015

When it's all said and done.

It really is black or white.  There are no shades of grey in the end.

Where is your line?

I'm an old fuddy-duddy.
I'm one of those weird Jesus believers.
I'm opinionated.
I tend to be a "chicken little" aka ( The sky is falling ).
I act like I "know it all".

I've heard all those .... and more ... descriptions of myself.
Heck, I even attribute them to me of my own accord.
I am all those things.  I am also so much more.

You see, I actually do care what happens to others.  Therefore I try to share my experiences.  I try to warn the young and naive about dangers from the "world".

Oh, you don't need me to do that.  Sorry.  I apologize if some of you take it as interfering or meddling.  I don't mean to seem that way.  I just care.

So here is how I look at things of the world.
There is good and bad, right and wrong, purity and evil.
We all have "free will".
Each person has to decide for his or herself what is right or wrong, good or evil, etc.
I have grown old and I just don't have the time or tolerance for wrong or evil any more.

As we all experience our "free will" most of us draw a line where one side is okay and one side is not. As we get older our line is rubbed out and redrawn.  We scratch out a new line as we learn more accurately what is right or wrong.   Our views change either by experiences or by acquiring knowledge.

Old people who are willing to share their experiences or knowledge with you don't mean to be nosey. We just don't want you to fall into a pit of evil and not be able to get out.

Be careful.
Your thoughts can become words.
Your words can become deeds.
Your deeds can become your character.
What kind of character do you want attributed to you?
( How do you want your children and grandchildren to view your character?)

Just be careful.
Think.
Think beyond the moment.
Think beyond the instant gratification.
Think beyond what others say or do.

Oh, all your friends are doing it too?
They support your decisions?
It is for their own sake that they do so.
You see ... by giving you the thumbs up it justifies their own behavior ( in their minds).

Think.
Think for yourself.

Be careful when you cross the line.
Sometimes you can't come back.


Thursday, February 12, 2015

Proud Parents?

Oh, you know them.  They are the parents who act as the cheering section for their children.  They are at every game / event.  Their kid is the best on the team / squad / whatever.  They brag on their child ad nauseam.  They post on facebook, and other social media about how proud they are of their precious, beautiful, talented, smart, athletic, sweet, polite, well mannered, socially advanced, loving, awesome child.  It can get to be a little bit much, .... right?  (I see you nodding your head.)

You have been told or have seen firsthand that some of these children are rude to teachers, speak horrible to his/her parents, drink, lie, breaks curfew, are hateful to other kids and act obnoxious toward other adults.

You wonder if that parent just doesn't see it .... or what? Who is the perfect child of which the parent speaks?  Why is that child so different in your eyes?

Well, here it is.  They actually do see the child as being exactly how they describe.  Rose colored glasses?  No.  It's love. ( What? Give me a break. ) No, seriously.  It's a rose colored heart filled with unconditional love.   You see ... to them that child actually IS amazing.   They may wear some blinders to some behaviors or refuse to believe it when told something by another adult, but they truly do love their child.  They see the perfection and minimize the imperfections.

This is not to say that they overlook bad behavior.  Many parents are good at disciplining their children when it's needed.  ( Not all .... but some actually do discipline them )  Yet in public, you will never hear them mention it.  They will never embarrass that child in front of their child's friends or other people in general.  The child may embarrass the parent, but the parent will hide it and will not embarrass their child.  They will continue to uplift and encourage that child no matter what.  They will be there no matter what.

So what is it about this type of parent that inspires me to blog about it?  Regrets.  It's that my parents were not like that.  And sadly, I was not like that as a parent when my kids were growing up.  I wish that I had been more supportive and more demonstrative of my pride in my children.  So should you.  Why?  Because in the years to come those kids will look back and KNOW that their parents loved them.  You see ....... that child will be on that team, in that school, in that town, for a little while ..... but they will be your child for all of their lives.  If you want a well adjusted, confident, adult then build up a confident child.

I hear you ..... "but you'll spoil them" .... "and you'll create little monsters" .... "and they will not take responsibility for their actions" ,,,, and "they will grow up to be a criminal".  That could happen and I have seen it happen .... but that is done by overly permissive parents who allow their children to be rude and out of control with no consequences.  There must be consequences, but that does not mean that the parent should demoralize the child in front of others.

So build up those children.  Tell them what they did correctly .... and gently talk to them about what they did incorrectly.  Tell them how proud of them that you are of them and let them know that you love them whether they win or lose, succeed or fail.  Applaud them when they succeed.  Give them a hug when they fail and encourage them to do better.

If they have done something that needs a consequence then explain that in life there are always going to consequences and rewards.  Explain that you are not punishing them ..... they earned the consequence of their own accord.

Keep on building up that child and you will have a wonderful adult in your family some day.

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Disclaimer:  I am not a person with any degree of formal education in parenting.  These thoughts are merely my own ... based on my experience and observations.  :)



Saturday, February 7, 2015

What the Bible Says About 50 Shades of Grey

I read this ladies blog this morning.  I wanted to share it with you.

What the Bible Says About 50 Shades Of Grey

This blogger has posted some valid thoughts on this subject.  My thoughts .... it's labeled as erotica.  Erotica is nothing more than pornography in other forms.  It can be a painting, a drawing, a sculpture, a photo, or yes, even the written word.

Think about it.  If your Lord, in which you profess to believe was reading the book or watching the movie right along with you ..... would you still read or watch it?  I'm guessing that you would be embarrassed to have Jesus know that you are viewing or reading erotica / pornography.  Well, guess what .... He sees what you do.  Everything.

Let's take this one step further.  Do you want your children to think that you approve of the character's behavior?  I mean ... you read it or you watched the movie.  They know that you did. Someday they will read the book or watch the movie and they will think , "Mom watched this and she liked it so it must be okay.  It must be how men treat women. "  Really?  Do you want your daughter to allow a man to dominate her that way?  Do you want your son to treat women as the man in the movie does?   Really?

Think!

The movie, the book, uses your own human desires to trick you into believing that such behavior is good.  It's not.  The porn industry spurs human trafficking.  Human trafficking enslaves our young ..... sometimes very young .... and uses them for sexual pleasure.  They are mistreated, abused, and thrown away when they are no longer usable .... just like the perverts throw away a used condom.

Think!

If we let these kinds of movies and books become "okay .... because everyone is doing it, everyone is watching it, everyone is reading it" in our society .... then we are nothing more than whores and pimps.  We condone the evil that goes along with erotica and pornography when we allow it to be in our lives.

Don't justify this book / movie because it makes you feel good.  The good feeling is fleeting and the regret and morose that follows will last much longer.

Think!

And the next time that you park your butt on a  church pew or say a prayer and profess to be a Christian .... stop and think, "What was I thinking?"  My guess is that you weren't thinking with your head or your heart.  You were thinking with your loins.

I'll probably take some flack for posting this.  It may embarrass some of the ones that I love.  It may cause some ridicule to be flung against me.  I don't care.  I have to stand up for what I believe and when I feel that something is wrong .... I have to say something.

50 Shades of Grey is evil disguised as a sexually stimulating piece of entertainment.

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More information:

https://www.lifesitenews.com/blogs/the-3-most-dangerous-lies-promoted-by-50-shades-of-grey

http://www.movieguide.org/news-articles/letter-daughter-eve-fifty-shades-grey-premiere.html

Wednesday, February 4, 2015

The Today Show .... is no longer a favorite. :(

I am a creature of habit .... or very loyal to things that I care about.  However sometimes I reach the decision to make a change.  Today is my day to change a tradition that goes back 60 years.

I have watched The Today Show for my morning dose of world and national events a.k.a. NEWS since I was a kid .... since Dave Garroway  was the morning news anchor ..... since the  Today Show was in black and white.  I'm not talking black and white as in our skin color.  I'm talking black and white as in good vs. bad, light vs. dark, right vs wrong and the content of the show reflected it.

I have always loved watching the Today Show.  I felt a connection to the show anchors who let us ordinary people see a glimpse into their personal lives from time to time.  I missed Katie Couric when she left the show.  There are some people from the show that I didn't like so very much, but that's not important.  What is important is that I no longer like the show.  I realized that this morning.  It sort of feels like losing a friend.  I am grieving for something that has been a part of my life for as long as I can remember.

Will I stop watching altogether?  No.  I'll probably still watch the first hour .... some days, but that's the only hour of the show that will get any attention from me.

Here's why:  Each hour the anchors change which is okay, but the first hour is the only hour where real news is the agenda.  The second hour is mostly entertainment and odd-ball news and a little bit of weather. The third hour is even more entertainment with no news at all.  The Today Show is no longer a morning news program.  It has become "entertainment daily".   If they would just break into the fluff, puff and silliness with real news and real weather every 15 minutes it would be great, but they don't.

What was it about this morning that caused me to make this decision?  They have in recent days and specifically this morning, hit a new low.  They are spending TOO much time and space promoting a movie / book that is known as "mommy porn".  When they mention it in 3 separate spots on their home page for this date ..... when they spend that many minutes on their show ..... promoting the new movie that is based on a movie about sexual habits then it is time for me to .... leave.

So long Today Show.  I'm going to miss you, but you aren't worth watching any more.

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I don't expect that they'll miss just one old lady, but I doubt that I'm the only person that feels this way.

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